Waiting is Never Wasted
Waiting is never wasted. If we allow it, that waiting time could be where God’s greatest work is done in us.
Waiting is never wasted. If we allow it, that waiting time could be where God’s greatest work is done in us.
What you’re doing today will have an impact on tomorrow… Be wise with your minutes and hours…
Light tomorrow with today.
~ Elizabeth Barrett Browning quote
Elizabeth Barrett Browning was a prolific writer of poetry and prose, born in England in 1806 and died at 51 in Italy. For most of her life, she struggled with severe health issues, and yet she challenged slavery and child labor laws, learned Hebrew to read the Bible, and became one of the most popular writers of her time period. She disobeyed her father and was disinherited when she married her love, Robert Browning, who was also a writer. You’ve probably heard/read at least one of her poems, including, “How do I love Thee, Let Me Count the Ways”
I came across an interesting study where a researcher had people walk in unfamiliar territory and they went in circles when they couldn’t see the sun. The circling was even worse when they were blindfolded. The researchers were trying to collect empirical data to support the age-old idea that when humans get lost they walk in circles.
Here’s a piece of the beginning of the study so you know to what I’m referring:
Common belief has it that people who get lost in unfamiliar terrain often end up walking in circles. Although uncorroborated by empirical data, this belief has widely permeated popular culture. Here, we tested the ability of humans to walk on a straight course through unfamiliar terrain in two different environments: a large forest area and the Sahara desert. Walking trajectories of several hours were captured via global positioning system, showing that participants repeatedly walked in circles when they could not see the sun. Conversely, when the sun was visible, participants sometimes veered from a straight course but did not walk in circles.
We tested various explanations for this walking behavior by assessing the ability of people to maintain a fixed course while blindfolded. Under these conditions, participants walked in often surprisingly small circles (diameter < 20 m), though rarely in a systematic direction. These results rule out a general explanation in terms of biomechanical asymmetries or other general biase. Instead, they suggest that veering from a straight course is the result of accumulating noise in the sensorimotor system, which, without an external directional reference to recalibrate the subjective straight ahead, may cause people to walk in circles.
~ read the entire study HERE
Now, as fascinating as this research is, let’s take the idea into a more abstract thought… and go farther.
Or rather, further. “Farther” is for physical distance and “further” for metaphorical, or figurative, distance. (Sorry-not-sorry for the word-nerd-ism.)
A goal might be a fixed point…
This isn’t hard.
However.
Too often we drift. We wonder why we are feeling like we’re going in circles in life. There doesn’t seem like there’s any progress.
If this is the case, I’m going to suggest we don’t have a fixed point – a goal. Or a particular goal is too big – it needs to be broken into smaller goals.
1- Have you written your goal down?
A written plan is important for any goal. Perhaps you’ve used the SMART method to determine your goal? (S = specific | M = measurable | A = achievable | R = relevant | T = time limited) — Click HERE for a worksheet to do this exercise.
2 – Do you have accountability partners for your goal?
Many people can handle reaching a goal on their own. However, having accountability partners makes the goal much easier to achieve. And then you have someone or many to celebrate with when you achieve it! Perhaps “accountability” is an uncomfortable word. What about a “mastermind group”?
3 – Are you reading and learning about your goal?
Most individuals can’t know everything about a topic. We all need input from other sources to solve a problem along the way or make better choices when we’re reaching for a goal.
4 – Mentors help you visualize the goal.
Do you have mentors who have already been where you want to go? Even if they don’t know you, it’s possible to have people you can learn from just by understanding their decisions and the path they’ve followed.
5 – Do you have milestones to mark your way to the goal?
Have you broken your goal down into various milestones? Sometimes a goal is huge, and you need smaller successes along the way to remain motivated.
Try one of these actions to find your fixed point.
What goals are you trying to reach? Make sure your path is straight…
Ever feel stuck waiting? At a dead end or caged in? Don’t know how you’re going to get out of where you are?
Just consider:
“maybe it isn’t a cage – maybe it’s a cocoon.” – this is a thought from Stacie.Martin on Instagram!
Amazing stuff happens inside a cocoon – nobody can see what’s happening, but when that waiting time is finished, what happens next is miraculous.
Be patient in your cocoon – let the transformation go forward!
“Our greatest gifts are often hidden in our deepest fears.”
I read a post by Annie at Gracefully Living titled “Fear is a Liar” – that’s where I got the above quote. She didn’t know where she’d heard it, and after a bit of research, I couldn’t find an attribution. Check out her post – it’s insightful!
So — I’ll echo Annie’s point in her post: FEAR IS A LIAR!
Take a moment today – during your drive home, or while preparing dinner, or brushing your teeth – to reflect on what fear is telling you about activities, items, issues, relationships, opportunities etc…
Could your fear be incorrect? Is it possible that fear is lying to you?
If you don’t think your fear is a liar… is there any actual evidence that the fear is correct?
FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real
I think you know what I’m referring to – someone has seen this in you, but you’ve discounted it.
Don’t worry. I’m not asking you to actually do anything with this gift. Not today.
But today, it’s OK to think about that gift. Quietly.
Let your gift, the one that’s hiding behind a fear, show its face.
Say “hello” to your Gift. Acknowledge it. Smile at it.
That’s all.
(Unless you want to take a step further and call your fear a liar?)
Success is not final. Failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts.
Winston Churchill, wartime Prime Minister of the United Kingdom can be lauded for many accomplishments and criticized for views, but what we do remember today is his attitude during the Second World War –
‘…never give in, never, never, never, never—in nothing, great or small, large or petty—never give in except to convictions of honour and good sense.’
~ from a speech in 1941
Do you need to come back from a failure to continue and reach a new goal? Is the joy of a past success hard to remember as you move forward and continue toward the next goal?
Are you tired, even as you carry on.. yet again… Sometimes it’s in the middle that we need even more energy than at the beginning or drawing near the end.
What do you need to continue this week? What goal are you reaching for?
Reach out to someone for some help. You don’t need to be alone as you continue. Now is a good time to build and nurture a team, even if that team is just there for support.
Use some of that courage you possess to ask for assistance – and if the assistance you need is some prayer, then ask for that also! (I’d be honored to pray with you – reach out! Remember, prayer changes things.)
When you encounter setbacks, the next action – if you keep aiming – is a launch forward.
Don’t give up. Keep the pressure on.
Keep your end goal in sight. Write it out. Keep it front and center. Don’t give up!
Who do you respect?
Individuals who we respect don’t have to be in our personal circles – we can respect aspects of individuals we’ve never met. Chances are their character qualities are what we respect.
Identify the character qualities you respect… here are some ideas of what character qualities might be:
… loving, kind, truthful, courageous, disciplined, efficient, faithful, gentle, humorous, innovative, joyful, logical, intuitive, methodical, persuasive, purposeful, relaxed, responsible, servant-hearted, supportive, trustworthy, understanding, versatile, well-read, witty or wise…
If you could choose some character qualities to cultivate – what would they be?
Need ideas? Here is a PDF with more than 200 character qualities to choose from – click HERE to download!
Or consider the Fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
Go a bit farther today – make everything you do EXTRA-ordinary!
It won’t take that much to be extra-ordinary. You can do it!
Cheers,
Lori
It’s not always a disaster when your forward trajectory reaching a goal takes a hit. Sometimes a few steps backward is just part of the dance.
Cheers!
Lori
(Don’t know what the cha-cha looks like? Click this link to go to YouTube and see some professionals strut their stuff.)
This quote is from Eleanor Roosevelt, the longest-serving First Lady of the United States. She held the post from March 1933 to April 1945 during her husband President Franklin D. Roosevelt’s four terms in office and after that served as United States Delegate to the United Nations General Assembly from 1945 to 1952.
Though widely respected in her later years, Eleanor was a controversial First Lady at the time for her outspokenness, particularly her stance on racial issues. She was the first presidential spouse to hold regular press conferences, write a daily newspaper column, write a monthly magazine column, host a weekly radio show, and speak at a national party convention. On a few occasions, she publicly disagreed with her husband’s policies.
and in this quote Eleanor continues:
We do not have to become heroes overnight.
Just a step at a time, meeting each thing that comes up,
seeing it is not as dreadful as it appeared,
discovering we have the strength to stare it down.
I wish you a heaping helping of strength and courage as you go into your day today. Remember – just one step at a time. We are all in it for the long run… make it easier by choosing courage today.
Cheers!
Lori
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Keep your face always toward the sunshine, and the shadows will fall behind you.
What does “face the sunshine” mean? I think it embodies what we’re doing at Positive ThanksLiving!
Being strategically optimistic isn’t ignoring the shadows in life, rather it’s focusing on moving forward.
Shadows – setbacks and issues – are always present in life. But we don’t need to keep looking at them! We can address the shadows if they’re addressable and then turn back to the sunshine and move forward.
Where’s your sunshine?
As a Christ-follower, my source of light is God. When the shadows start to creep into my heart, mind, and soul, I turn to my Savior. All the setbacks and satan can be behind me if I’m facing toward Him.
So – where’s your sunshine?
Cheers!
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